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Saturday, October 5, 2013

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Thursday, September 19, 2013

Google Update April 2013

Surely the article is little more than fodder content as it seems to point out that the so called Google Update April (which is not a supported branding of any sort of update) is happening on a daily basis.

This is not new news to the SEO community or anyone who follows the industry as we already know that Google Panda is now a rolling update which has been placed into the Google Algorithm, so not sure what the point of the posting was personally...

Want to break the news a little... Be one of the first to report on any movements that you could notice on 24th of this month as that is the date that the SEO community are tipping to have a Google Penguin update being rolled out, although at this time that is little more than speculation.


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Thursday, September 12, 2013

Paul Stoller: April Is the Cruelest Month

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For people in college or university communities, April is the cruelest month. April signals the fast approaching end of the academic year -- papers to complete, exams to take, classroom observations to turn in, evaluations to administer, budgets to compile, proposals to refine and submit. It's a race to the finish line and a time of deep stress.

In the past, university people seemed able to weather cruel April storms. You hunkered down and believed that your considerable efforts would be appreciated. When you huffed and puffed your way across the academic finish line sometime in May, you could look forward to a summer job or to some travel. You might begin a new research project or develop a new course. You might work on an essay or a book. In the fall you'd return energized for the new academic year.

These have long been the rhythms of college life.

Times have changed on our college campuses. There is an increasing lack of respect for the intellectual rhythms of college life. Many elected officials, for example, like to disparage public universities. Narrow-minded governors like Scott Walker, Rick Scott, Rick Perry and North Carolina's Pat McCrory believe that public funds to higher education should go to job-producing technical programs. In other words, they would like to transform public higher education into a set of competitive job-training programs. Such short-sightedness, which grants low-priority to higher education, has resulted in reductions in student support and elimination of academic programs. In public higher education, it has led to an increase in the number of poorly paid -- and poorly treated -- temporary faculty and a concomitant decrease in the population of tenured professors. These trends threaten to transform, if not destroy, a system of higher education that has been the envy of the world.

Although mindless budget cutting, misguided austerity and anti-intellectual political posturing pose serious external threats to the future of college life, there are also internally generated threats. These threats, which may well be partially stimulated by widespread derision of "intellectuals," sometimes emerge from an administrative distrust -- and disrespect -- of faculty competence.

In case there are readers who think I am overstating the case, consider the ever-present issue of outcomes assessment -- measuring student performance. For several years now, college faculty members have been compelled to spend more and more time preparing documents -- mission statements, and assessment measurements -- to determine if students are successfully mastering the course materials in their classes. These tasks, of course, take precious time away from course preparation, research, writing and thinking -- the real substance of life on our campuses.

In a commentary in the Chronicle of Higher Education on March 11 of this year, Steven Hales, a professor of philosophy, chimed in on outcomes assessment. He wrote:

Outcomes assessment is an epistemological quagmire, a problem unnoticed by many of the practice's strongest advocates. Here's why. Faculty members assign grades to students at the end of every course. Either (1) we know that on the whole those grades accurately measure the degree to which a student has mastered the course material and achieved the objectives of the course, or (2) we do not know. The very idea of outcomes assessment is predicated on Option 2...

According to Professor Hales, then, assessment assessors don't believe that grades sufficiently measure student outcomes, which means that they have put into the practice a convoluted set of instrument designs and procedures to measure "real student success." Grading is certainly not a perfect instrument to measure "outcomes," but to distrust it's validity is rather insulting to those who teach the courses, design the exams, read the research papers, and assign the grades. Do I need an outcomes assessor to tell me that a student who writes a poorly researched essay should or should not get a failing grade? Is that failing grade not an indicator of student mastery of the subject matter?

If you have been a college professor for more than 10, 20 or 30 years, how would you feel if an assessor, who holds the power of "program revision" (potential reduction or elimination for poor outcome measures) over your head, sent you a list of words to use to develop outcomes assessment tools?

Several months ago, I received such a list: "Terms to use to articulate learning outcomes: what students will be able to do or think." Here's a small sample. Under the heading of Remember you are asked to use words like "describe," discuss," "classify," and "recognize." Under the heading of Apply they recommend using words like "change," "construct," "manipulate, and "prepare." Under the heading of Understand they suggest using words like "comprehend," "defend," "explain," and "exemplify."

Such a list reinforces the perception that (1) faculty grades are not good measures of student performance and (2) professors lack the linguistic wherewithal to pick the correct "terms" to measure student performance. What kind of message does this send to those of us who have dedicated our lives to research, writing, thinking and teaching?

Sadly, these external and internal threats to the intellectual climate on our campuses seem to reinforce the destructive idiom: "Those who can, do. Those who can't, teach." If we don't value and support the dedication, competence and expertise of college professors -- tenured and non-tenured, permanent and temporary -- the quality of intellectual life on our campuses will precipitously decline -- a very dear price to pay when our goal is to prepare students, who represent the future, to think in and adapt to a complex and changing world.

April is the cruelest month. The headwinds we face are very stiff. As we move forward to a new academic year, we'll need to be persistent and resilient to slow the erosion of intellectual life on campus.

 

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Friday, September 6, 2013

Alexandra Katehakis, M.F.T.: Weekly Meditations for Healthy Sex (April 5-11)

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It's vital for mindful acts of emotional and spiritual intimacy to steadily develop as a daily practice for healthy sex. To that end, Center for Healthy Sex has created daily meditations to help you reach your sexual and relational potential. (You can subscribe for free here.)

Even momentarily concentrating on healthy solutions rewires psychological patterns to receive and share healthy sexual love in the present. Here are three meditations with the themes of healthy sex, neglect, and self-empowerment for you to ponder and practice this week.

Meditation 1: Healthy Sex

"(E)very gesture, every caress, every touch, every glance, every last bit of the body has its secret, which brings happiness to the person who knows how to wake it." -- Hermann Hesse

There are many debates about what constitutes healthy sex, and no one person has the final definition -- except you. You have to decide what is and isn't healthy for you depending on your past, what you know about yourself today, and what safely brings you pleasure. A general guideline of aspects for you to check is S.A.F.E.: Is it Secretive or Shaming? Is it Abusive to you or your partner, whether verbally, emotionally, physically, or sexually? Is it used to escape Feelings? Does it require an Emotional connection with another?

As you continue to define healthy sex and to develop your own safe scripts, consider that deepening your sense of self and embracing your own erotic, animal nature is a benefit of the sexual freedom you seek. Create a climate with your partner of mutual respect and honor and notice how you feel after a sexual encounter. An embodied sense of self that feels congruent, whole, and good likely means you're on the right track. As you hone your erotic lovemap, you may dare to demand the experience of staying in the present moment and staying relational with your partner. Seek surrender and vulnerability and take risks you may have avoided in the past. Challenge yourself to feel deeply and to love with your entire body, mind, and soul.

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Take time to envision your most erotic self. What's missing from your experience today, and what do you need to do to take a step toward your vision? Share this with your partner.Talk to your partner about trying something new the next time you have sex. Will this be making eye contact during the moment of orgasm, sharing a sexual fantasy that includes the two of you, or using massage oils? Bring to life one aspect of your vision of your most erotic self.


Meditation 2: Neglect

"It's not love's going hurts my days
But that it went in little ways." -- Edna St. Vincent Millay

Neglect is more harmful than once thought, especially for young children. It comes in the form of disregarding or ignoring a child's needs, whether emotional, physical, or psychological. Being neglected can wreak terrible damage on children's sense of themselves, and therefore on their self-worth and esteem. These under-valued children may carry the baton of neglect into the rest of their lives. Many of us struggled from the supposedly "benign" neglect by our caregivers, which left us feeling shameful about our appearance, bodies, morals, or intelligence. We may heal ourselves from these wounds. But making such a fundamental change in the way we see -- or don't see -- our true beings requires stopping and taking an inventory of the self-disregard we still tolerate in our lives.

Survey your life: Take a look at your home, car, work environment, wardrobe, relationships, and spiritual state, and see what parts of yourself you may be neglecting to care for. What has become shabby in your surroundings? In your appearance? In your work? Do you settle for neglectful, cavalier relationships with friends or your partner? If you show indifference to yourself, you can expect nothing more from potential lovers, friends, or bosses.

If you're neglecting your primary relationship, then that "garden" won't flourish and grow either. So often we assume that once we're in a relationship it will sail on automatic pilot seamlessly into the future. Since no one ever put attention or care into them, persons neglected as children may have particular difficulty grasping that living relationships, like living beings, require tending, hard work, and love. Promise yourself to care for your relationship, and for yourself, and put those vows into practice.

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Take a moment to look at your life and consider your most deeply desired vision for the coming year.Do the persons and things in your life reflect that vision or are you tolerating scraps?Remove all tattered or shabby things in your life, and stop neglecting yourself.


Meditation 3: Self-Empowerment

"I had to give up the fantasy, the enormous life consuming fantasy, that someone or something was going to do this for me -- the fantasy that someone was coming to lead my life, to choose direction, to give me orgasms." -- Eve Ensler

Waiting for Prince Charming to swoop in and elevate our dreary lives is a dis-empowering, grandiose and childish fantasy that only serves to leave us weak and victim-like. Yet many fairy tales conjure images of knights in shining armor and Cinderella-like endings that will rescue us from the hardships of life. Like all fairy tales, these stories are filled with metaphors for life but don't bear any factual resemblance to adult reality. So they can cripple us in immaturity if we stay attached to them.

Life is filled with challenges and strife, which we can use in service of shaping our character, rounding out our rough edges, and forcing us to grow. Taking the "bull by the horns" in life means we set ourselves a course of possibility and vision, and to do so we must step out of our comfort zone. It can also mean that we aren't relying on a lover or partner to make us happy or to bring us sexual blossoming.

Living a life of self-empowerment means that we willingly live in discomfort, anxiety, and sometimes even in fear because we recognize those feelings as a personal crucible for growth. Such growth is essential to realizing -- that is, to making real -- our own dreams and visions. Independent people know that challenge is a genuine part of reality, and that only by managing it ourselves will we manifest our true selves. Holding the paradox of fear and faith simultaneously is the task of the visionary; create your own fairy tale today and empower yourself to live the life you imagine!

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What fantasies are you harboring -- perhaps about being saved from your lot in life -- that need to be dashed?Are you sexually disempowered? If so, how? What small step can you take today to get into reality and empower yourself? Try talking to a friend, your partner, a health or mental health professional. Take your sexuality into your own hands.Do you discount your current relationship and live in fantasy about a perfect one? How might living in fantasy keep you from appreciating the relationship you already have?


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